Here’s How to Ask Me for Help

January 17, 2017

Here are some of the cool things I know about:

  • International trip planning
  • Nomadism
  • The FEIE
  • Remote Work
  • Wine
  • Yummy restaurants in various cities around the world
  • Entrepreneurship
  • Freelancing
  • SEO & SEO Writing
  • Copywriting
  • Editing
  • Basic WordPress stuff

(I feel pretty badass given that list.)

While I love that people look at my life and wonder “how does she do it? And how can I do it?” it does get super tiring to be expected to be on call for everyone who has questions about any of those topics. I get several messages every single week asking me for help with something. If it’s small and/or we’re close, I’ll do my best to help. If you’re asking me to explain my entire budget/work/travel strategy or how to become a freelance writer and we’ve met once, at a friends birthday party, six months ago, I’m not likely to do it. It’s not that I don’t want to but what you’re asking me to do is to spend several hours typing up information for you.  I don’t know about you, but I simply don’t have the time or energy or inclination to do that.

Despite the glamorous life everyone thinks I lead, sitting on beaches drinking mai tais, I actually work really hard. I’m not only establishing myself as a writer but am also bootstrapping a company. So basically I’m working two full-time jobs right now and trying to keep up some semblance of a social life while I’m gallivanting around the world. After all, what good is country-hopping if all I see is the inside of coffee shops?

If you’re interested in a topic, do what I was taught to do when I was learning to program and Google it. I’d much rather field a question like “Do you think it’s better to have a 5 day error window with the presence test for the FEIE or do you think 3 is enough?” than “What’s the FEIE? Someone said you knew about it.” If you can’t find the information you need, tell me what you found so far. From there, I might be able to guide you to a better source or just give you the information directly. Showing me that you researched it a bit yourself and aren’t just expecting me to do all the heavy lifting proves to me that you value my time and expertise.

And if you really want me to do the heavy lifting, do what I do : pay for it. I pay an assistant who does some legwork for me, from sourcing photos or compiling a list of “must sees” for when I’m on a 48 hour layover in a new city. I also pay a lot of money to a mentor whose advice and expertise I value. If you’d really like me to answer all your questions and walk you through something, I’d be happy to do it for the same price I charge my clients for my time/skills. If you’re offended by this suggestion, I refer you back to suggestion #2: Google it.  Maybe you’ll even come across one of my articles on the subject.

This sounds really harsh, I know, but it’s gotten to the point where I’m getting multiple requests every week. While I would really love to help everyone, I simply can’t. I don’t have a trust fund that will pay for my life or a business that runs without my heavy lifting. Like you, I only have so many hours and so much energy and can only do so much, and most of what I need to do right now is work.

Thank you for understanding.

amnashamim

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